[APG Public List] predeceased by infant children

Michael John Neill mjnrootdig at gmail.com
Sat Jan 2 15:25:11 MST 2010

There are a variety of reasons why individuals can be left out, regardless
of whether they died as infants or adults. It is always imperative to
remember that personalities can play a huge role in these things in addition
to the cost of the obituary itself.

My grandparents lost two children as infants. They were mentioned in the
obituaries of all four of their grandparents and  in the obituary of my
grandfather (who was their father). Grandma had no obituary (or death
notice) when she passed, so that doesn't apply (and is a whole 'nuther
story). My Mother (their sister) told me that they are to be included in her
obituary when that time comes.

My great-uncle's second wife wrote his obituary when he passed a few years
ago. His three daughters (who were still living nearby) with his first wife
were not mentioned. His son with his second wife (also alive nearby) was not
mentioned either.

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On Sat, Jan 2, 2010 at 3:33 PM, <barb at johnwylie.com> wrote:

> The cost of publishing obituaries is steep, forcing many families to prune
> the word count severely. Recently been there; done that.
> Barbara Brixey Wylie
> Grand Prairie, TX
> -----Original Message-----
> From: apgpubliclist-bounces at apgen.org
> [mailto:apgpubliclist-bounces at apgen.org] On Behalf Of Stephen Danko
> Sent: Saturday, January 02, 2010 3:18 PM
> To: APGpubliclist at apgen.org
> Subject: Re: [APG Public List] predeceased by infant children
> There are several cases of children who died young in my own family.
> Several
> of my
> aunts, uncles, and cousins died in infancy or in the first few years of
> life. None have
> been mentioned in any obituary.
> In fact, when reviewing the obituaries, very seldom were predeceased
> children or
> siblings, even those who survived to adulthood, mentioned in the obituaries
> of my
> relatives.
> I suspect that whoever wrote the obituaries just didn't think it was
> important to include
> those who predeceased the subject of the obituaries.
> Stephen J. Danko, PLCGS
> ----------------------------------------------------------------------------
> ----------------------------------
> > At 06:28 AM 12/23/2009, Ida Skarson McCormick wrote:
> > In the case of 2 cousins who died in the last 6 months, one in Michigan
> and one in
> Washington State, I have noticed that although each lost a child in
> infancy,
> neither of
> those is in the obituary "predeceased by" list. Is this a trend in the
> funeral industry?
> There is not even an allusion to an "infant son."
> >
> > --Ida Skarson McCormick, idamc at seanet.com, Seattle
> > Ida ----------

Michael John Neill
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