[APG Public List] [APG Members] Genealogical relationships for adoptee families

[Jeanette Daniels]

Eileen,

Sorry you took it wrong.  The idea was for children to identify with the parent 
or parents who raised them regardless of the "blood" line.  Not all children are 
raised by loving parents and many have no clue about one side of the family or 
the other because there is no contact.  That was what the distinction was for.  
The program was to help these children get a sense of identity and a love of 
whatever family they lived in.

Right now my oldest son has a foster child who has been in 16 other homes other 
than my son, Richard's home.  He is 12 years old.  This boy has some definite 
problems with his identity.  If Richard and the rest of us in the family can 
help this boy realize that he can have a supportive family experience with 
Richard and us (Richard's parents and siblings, friends, etc.) we will feel that 
we have succeeded.  As far as genealogy goes, I will introduce him to the "love 
line" concept.  I believe that he truly needs it.

Jeanette Daniels
Heritage Genealogical College




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From: Ó Dúill Associates <info at heirsireland.com>
To: Jeanette Daniels <jeanettedaniels8667 at yahoo.com>; Kathy Rippel 
<twinmom22 at cox.net>; APG Members Only List <apgmembersonlylist at apgen.org>
Sent: Mon, August 16, 2010 12:40:12 PM
Subject: Re: [APG Members] Genealogical relationships for adoptee  families

 
Sorry Jeanette but I find the use of the terms  "blood" line and "love" line as 
mutually exclusive to be unacceptable in  genealogy.Is the use of these terms 
suggesting that there is no "love" in the  blood line? How can this be construed 
as a nice distinction? 

 
Most of us like to think our ancestors were in  love, at least at the time of 
the marriage. 

 
Eileen
 
 
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----- Original Message ----- 
>From: Jeanette Daniels 
>To: Kathy Rippel ; APG Members Only List 
>Sent: Monday, August 16, 2010 1:41    PM
>Subject: Re: [APG Members] Genealogical    relationships for adoptee families
>
>
>Kathy and others,
>
>A simple way to trace ancestry is tracing the    "blood" lines and tracing the 
>"love" lines.  There was a childrens    genealogical program at the public 
>library system in Carlsbad, CA in about    2000 where most of the children lived 
>in family situations where divorces and    remarriages, etc. found them living 
>with non-biological parents.  So, in    order to explain how to trace their 
>genealogy, they used "blood" lines and    "love" lines to distinguish who they 
>wanted to trace.  I think that is a    nice distinction.
>
>Jeanette Daniels
>Heritage Genealogical    College
>
>
>
>
________________________________
 From: Kathy Rippel    <twinmom22 at cox.net>
>To: Joan Lowrey <joanlowr at pacbell.net>;    apgmembersonlylist at apgen.org
>Sent: Mon, August 16, 2010 12:56:44    AM
>Subject: Re: [APG Members]    Genealogical relationships for adoptee families
>
>Other posters    have answered this quite well, but I have another 
>related    example.
>
>My husband (not the father of my children) never had children    of his 
>own; we married when my children were adults.
>
>However, OUR    grandchildren merely know him as "Grandpa" and he is, in 
>their eyes, as    much (or more so) a real grandparent as any of their 
>"biological"    grandparents.
>
>When we married he felt odd being when the family started    calling him 
>"Grandpa", he said the grandson already had grandparents. I    pointed 
>out that children don't make those distinctions, the more love the 
>better whether the grandparent (or parent, etc.) is biologically 
>related or not. Our grandkids have three sets of grandparents and see 
>nothing odd about it.
>
>We will receive a step-grandson (older than    the others) this fall and 
>plan to treat him like the other grandsons, as    much as he feels comfortable.
>
>When a work on family genealogy I work on    my own line, my kids' 
>paternal line, my husband's line. Adoptions,    step-relationships, and 
>other "non-traditional" family relationships are    noted with all 
>descendants included.
>
>Families are definitely made    in the heart. Our families' histories 
>must record all the flavors we    enjoy!!
>
>Kathy
>
>At 03:04 PM 8/15/2010, Joan Lowrey    wrote:
>>The following query was forwarded to me by my local    society.  I 
>>don't have experience with adoptees.  Can any of    you provide the answer?
>>
>>Thank you,
>>Joan Neumann    Lowrey
>>La Jolla, CA
>>
>>Assume a child is adopted. That    child grows to adult hood and has
>>children and grandchildren. In    genealogical talk, are the adult's
>>children and grandchildren related    to the adult child's adoptive parents
>>and if so, what is the correct    terminology and explanation for
>>relationship. In my tree, Richard was    adopted by Freda and Cris. As an
>>adult, Richard married, had two girls,    and the girls are married and
>>have children. The girls are now    inquiring about grandparents Freda and
>>Cris and their correct    relationship to them and to Cris and Freda's
>>parents,    etc
>>
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